Comments on: my relationship with alcohol: the updates https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/ A Health and Lifestyle brand based in Los Angeles, California Wed, 09 Aug 2017 03:57:25 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Rachel https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146979 Wed, 09 Aug 2017 03:57:25 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146979 This is my first time visiting the blog but I recently discovered the podcast a few weeks ago and have to admit, i have completely binged out listening to it and absolutely love it. Not a terrible thing to bidge out on either. Something I have been really struggling lately is exactly what Jordan talks about with that internal shift you start to feel in yourself when you can physically, mentally and emotionally feel yourself pulling away from a certain lifestyle (going out, drinking, etc.) as you are on this path to seek out and spend more time doing the things that fill you up and are good for your soul. I have a lot of really incredible people in my life who support and completely encourage and inspire me to dive deeper on this spiritual journey but I have had a hard time letting go of one friend who has been one of my very best friends for a long time. She does not at all understand my wanting to change or alter my lifestyle, which is okay, but it has definitely caused a strain in our relationship over the last 6 months to a year. I love how Jordan talks about ‘not drinking for other people’ and that not being a valid reason to choose to drink – because it is absolutely not. Don’t get me wrong, I still enjoy wine or beer, but now feel no desire to make going out or night life a part of my regular weekend. I really appreciate Jordan sharing her story and journey of her relationship with alcohol, and all of the comments on this post. Thank you all for being the beams of light that you are and continuing to inspire!

]]> By: Lyddie https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146968 Tue, 08 Aug 2017 06:11:11 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146968 Love love love this and it came at the perfect time. I’m about to embark on my senior year of college and have cut my drinking down to almost nothing. I feel so terrible when I do, my stomach and skin flare up for days, even weeks, and I feel depressed and down. It’s so hard to explain this to others who think I’m just being lame and don’t want to have fun with them. I love that you have struck a balance and love to hear how you are so flexibly dealing with social situations involving alcohol. Thank you for the inspiration!

]]> By: Erin https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146823 Sat, 29 Jul 2017 08:36:32 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146823 Thank you for sharing your story! As a twenty-something who only drinks on occasion, it’s not always easy when it isn’t the most popular choice and when a lot of social gatherings revolve around drinking. It’s refreshing to hear your story!

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]]> By: Erica B https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146774 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 01:10:35 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146774 LOVE that you were so honest and shared this with us. I feel very similarly about the matter!

]]> By: Heather Szentimrey https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146744 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 23:50:50 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146744 Thank you, THANK YOU. I am 27 and I do not like drinking, occasionally sure, but the old school university style binge drinking is a thing of the distant past. I get judgment from this every single event I go to. ‘Let loose Heather, You can have one drink and not get fat Heather ( I am super into fitness) OMG IS THAT HEATHER WITH A DRINK IN HER HAND WHO IS SHE?!’ it gets really old really fast and I am so tired of it. Alcohol makes me unusually sick and I have no tolerance, (possible allergy or metabolic issue?) and it makes my life miserable for DAYS. My choice 90% of the time is to mocktail, thank you for spelling it out and making me feel like I am normal for a 20 something. amen sister.

]]> By: Bridget Elezovic https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146743 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 23:33:03 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146743 I am so excited that one of my friends suggested your podcast which led me to following you on Instagram and reading this blog post. This is currently something I am struggling with because like you I was the girl that was always throwing or attending the party in college. I was always known as the girl who knew how to have a good time and knew EVERYONE. After graduation, like a flip of a switch, I just wasn’t interested in it anymore.

I moved to New York where I luckily found best friends that were very like minded. If we went out, it was a treat and it was usually for brunch. But I moved again to Chicago where a lot of my friends from college live now and I am learning to try to find the balance. When we go to brunch I feel obligated to participate in the bottomless cocktails instead of just sipping on water. The main reason behind this is because I just don’t want to miss out (FOMO) or upset anyone around me if I don’t participate. On top of this, I don’t enjoy going out and staying up past midnight. Half the time I am asleep by 11PM on Friday night so that I can be up and at it on Saturday and enjoy my weekend.

It was so great to read this article and see that there are other people that feel the same way, have learned the balance and have accepted themselves. I am looking forward to only drinking when I want to moving forward instead of when I feel obligated for my friends. Thanks so much for this post and I look forward to reading more. From your new Instagram follower @brielezovic

]]> By: Lauren Gillespie https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146715 Wed, 19 Jul 2017 03:55:29 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146715 For more reasons than I can say in a comment, THANK YOU for this post! I really appreciate you sharing your perspective and helping to normalize this sometimes misunderstood topic.

]]> By: Katie Maksimova https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146704 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 13:00:39 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146704 Love following you on IG!]]> Thank you for this! I really needed to read this tonight. I don’t drink every day but I am a frequent drinker, and I really want to stop (ideally completely for a while) to work on my health. But I am totally having a hard time stopping drinking because every single person/friend/family member I know drinks! And if you don’t, people are like what’s wrong with you?! It’s hard not to be influenced by the people around you. Your post brought to light that I just have to try to be the example, and as you put it, DO ME. Thank you πŸ’– Love following you on IG!

]]> By: mariah https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146702 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 09:07:47 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146702 Totally resonate with this! I too had my wild streak in high school and college until at one point i noticed I always had the urge to want to go home from the bars early and it felt amazing! I loved going out with my friends but I also really enjoyed waking up and doing my routine… and not feeling hungover. I loved to wake up, have my coffee without throwing up, feel great get a good workout in and go about my day! Meanwhile all of my friends would sleep until about 1 pm no joke… i never could understand this partly bc I never slept in much naturally. But they always couldn’t understand how I would want to wake up and go to a hot yoga class after a night out. It was not until about a year ago my stomach issues were getting to a point where i couldn’t handle them anymore. I would drink even just casual, and wake up with a sour stomach or just not feeling right and it would take days to get back to normal but I never associated it with the drinks. I had been to an acupuncturist who told me i should stop caffeine and alcohol. OK the caffeine i would not give up bc I love me my morning coffee but i started to dwindle down my drinking … first slow and then almost completely. It was a shock to everyone around me though, my boyfriend didn’t get it and either did my family. But sure enough my stomach issues have almost cleared up not 100 percent but close and as much as I love a nice glass of wine at the end of the day, I think about how i am going to feel after and if that drink was worth it. I am starting to find the happiness in not having to rely on alcohol to have a good time or be social. While pretty much everyone around me drinks at dinner, i hold out most of the time and like you said in your post when the vibe is right i do it and don’t feel bad about it! I am really happy you posted this because i really do feel like not a lot of people get our side. I as well feel so much better waking up clear minded, no headache no stomach ache and no regrets!!!! Thank you again for this post it really gave me a lot of closure and clarity about my own situation!

]]> By: blondeatbat https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146701 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 06:35:09 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146701 πŸ’•πŸ’πŸΌ The best! Second, I'm really glad you're using your platform to talk about this. In my teens/ early twenties I always felt ostracized because I wouldn't party to the level of everyone else's expectations. I've never understood why people care how much someone else drinks in a social situation, or feels the needs to pressure others to drink at all...or more than they want to. I struggled because I wanted to feel included and was always up for a good time, but knew my values and my body just didn't agree with that level of consumption. I mean who wants to be hungover until the next night!? Not me. As I have gained a greater sense of self and surrounded myself with people who just know I won't be getting drunk or staying out until 3 am and accept that that is who I am, I have become more confident in my ability to drink what and when and how much I want to without feeling influenced by others. Even though I drink in small amounts I recently decided to cut alcohol altogether for at least 6 weeks. 30 some days in I've realized how many social situations (vacations, weddings, etc.) revolve around drinking and how tough it can be to do you while everyone else is engaging in drinking. However, I've also learned I can still enjoy these events just as much as anyone else while being good to my body πŸ™πŸΌ I think I've also grown more aware of how I was using wine as a crutch for my anxiety rather than going to my yoga practice, running, a warm bath, etc. I think cutting or reducing intake is a great test for anyone who wants to become more in tune with themselves. Keep up the good work showing women and girls that they are fun, vibrant, and interesting no matter what's in their glass πŸ’• muah!]]> First, I love that we share the same go to mocktail πŸ™ŒπŸΌπŸ’•πŸ’πŸΌ The best! Second, I’m really glad you’re using your platform to talk about this. In my teens/ early twenties I always felt ostracized because I wouldn’t party to the level of everyone else’s expectations. I’ve never understood why people care how much someone else drinks in a social situation, or feels the needs to pressure others to drink at all…or more than they want to. I struggled because I wanted to feel included and was always up for a good time, but knew my values and my body just didn’t agree with that level of consumption. I mean who wants to be hungover until the next night!? Not me. As I have gained a greater sense of self and surrounded myself with people who just know I won’t be getting drunk or staying out until 3 am and accept that that is who I am, I have become more confident in my ability to drink what and when and how much I want to without feeling influenced by others. Even though I drink in small amounts I recently decided to cut alcohol altogether for at least 6 weeks. 30 some days in I’ve realized how many social situations (vacations, weddings, etc.) revolve around drinking and how tough it can be to do you while everyone else is engaging in drinking. However, I’ve also learned I can still enjoy these events just as much as anyone else while being good to my body πŸ™πŸΌ I think I’ve also grown more aware of how I was using wine as a crutch for my anxiety rather than going to my yoga practice, running, a warm bath, etc. I think cutting or reducing intake is a great test for anyone who wants to become more in tune with themselves. Keep up the good work showing women and girls that they are fun, vibrant, and interesting no matter what’s in their glass πŸ’• muah!

]]> By: Lauren https://thebalancedblonde.com/2017/07/17/my-relationship-with-alcohol-the-updates/#comment-146700 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 06:22:41 +0000 https://www.thebalancedblonde.com/?p=14385#comment-146700 From the bottom of my heart I want to say THANK YOU for this post! Being in college and especially in Greek life has been very difficult for me when it comes to people respecting my decision to take it easy on alcohol consumption. I think many people find that your choice not to drink is a judgement of their choices to imbibe, but that’s not it at all! Alcohol gives me headaches, spikes my anxiety, and really takes me away from being true to myself. If other people feel great taking shot after shot, that’s totally cool! I’m a true believer in being “drunk on life” when you surround yourself with the right people, and I’m starting to figure that out as I go along! Thanks for the post and for the assurance that it does get better and easier to stay sound in our choices that feel best for ourselves πŸ™‚

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