Comments on: To All of the Humans Who Have Not Found Their Person Yet…

By: Stephanie Alirkan

Stephanie Alirkan — Tue, 30 Jun 2020 05:26:37 +0000

Hi! I’m late finding your post but I recently came across this post and it inspired me to write my own brief relationship history to recap where I was, despite not having a “happy ending” at this time. It was soothing or comforting to write despite how difficult it could be, so I thank you for writing this.

By: Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde

Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 05:56:05 +0000

In reply to Emma Kula. Yes!!! I so agree. Thank you Emma! So glad to have you here!

By: Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde

Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 05:55:49 +0000

In reply to Kylie Johnson.

Kylie, this is AMAZING!!!! I am honored to the moon to be in the same expander list for you as Cory and Topanga… I mean: GOALS. Also I will have to tell you a funny story via email some time about me and Ben Savage who played Cory, haha. He is great, by the way. YES you deserve your person and I am so, so, so thrilled for you to call him into your life!!! He will come at the exact time as he is meant to– and you’ll see why nothing has worked out in the past. <3 XO

By: Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde

Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 05:54:07 +0000

In reply to Davy Jones.

I love this so much, Davy. I am so glad to hear this post is relevant from a guy’s perspective too. I am so happy to have you here reading. I can definitely relate– in ways our high school relationships sound similar. You will find your person– sometimes when we are not looking is exactly when they come along!!

By: Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde

Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 05:52:45 +0000

wow yes Lisa I so feel you. your heart KNOWS. trust yourself. <3 and wherever your heart leads you will be right!

By: Emma Kula

Emma Kula — Wed, 26 Sep 2018 04:17:12 +0000

Jordan – thank you SO much for this post. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently, so the timing of this is magical. I was in a four year relationship that I ended last year, and although I’ve very much enjoyed being single, I’ve also been careful to remind myself to keep being patient and never settle for less than what I want. It can be really difficult to do in our age of dating apps (and when many of your friends have partners!), but this post is such a beautiful reminder. Thank you for always inspiring! xo

By: Kylie Johnson

Kylie Johnson — Wed, 26 Sep 2018 03:57:10 +0000

I love this, Jordan! I can’t remember if it was on the blog or podcast- but recently (in the past month or two) I heard you say you had been manifesting Jonathan 8 weeks before you began dating and it really got me thinking I need to stop and address what I want and what I need to address within myself before I get it. I sat down and wrote a basic list of what I want and I have been meditating on it here and there, but I’ve realized I’m not wanting to get back into the dating world and I realized that’s because of fear. Just yesterday I started Free and Native’s Partnerships workshop. Today I identified who my expanders were and I came across three couples: a couple I know in real life, Cory and Topanga, and you and Jonathan. I tend to date guys that are abrasive and don’t care, or on the more gentle side but are usually hiding something horrible. Seeing how well Jonathan treats you and genuinely loves you is SUCH a breath of fresh air and shows me that there are nice guys out there, and I CAN get that kind of love. I remembered getting an email yesterday about this blog and hadn’t gotten a chance to look at it, so after realizing and remembering that, I jumped on to read and it really hit my heart. Thank you for writing this. You said it would inspire at least one person reading to wait for the person who WILL step up for them, and that one person was me! XOXO

By: Davy Jones

Davy Jones — Wed, 26 Sep 2018 02:12:36 +0000

From a guy’s perspective, I can say this blog is equally relevant. I had a similar relationship that started early in high school & lasted another year-ish after. We had a very deep bond, similar to how you described. The main reason we ended up splitting was she had an extremely abusive family & we were far too young to be able to deal with that in a healthy way. It was bad for me, but worse for her. Her parents used me as a way to control her, so in essence, by leaving, I took away one of their main ways of abusing her. I tried for a time to get her to break ties & in essence “run away” with me, but she couldn’t get there emotionally. That’s a big ask, so I’ve never held that against her. Anywho, that’s ancient history, but over the years, I’ve learned a lot from that relationship in hindsight. I’ve had a number of relationships since, but have never recaptured a comparable bond or level of chemistry with anyone since. I eventually came to realize I wasn’t willing to settle. I’d rather stay perpetually single than be with someone less than 100%. Only time will tell if I find someone, but it’s not a life goal at this point. For my part, the saying is true, “Better to have loved & lost than to never have loved at all.”

By: Hallie O’Reilly

Hallie O’Reilly — Mon, 24 Sep 2018 21:56:34 +0000

Ooof. This one resonates deeeeep. It’s like your entire dating history is my entire dating history’s long lost twin. We share so much of the same experience (at different times-I’m just a couple years older than you and had my same boyfriends and guys at different ages than you), but wow. Thank you for this beautiful poem and this lovely hopeful romantic post about the waiting and it being worth it. I am now one of the ONLY people in my circles of friends who is single. I refuse to settle. Always have really, just took a lot of detours and spent a lot of time with people stuck in their worlds to learn that I wouldn’t. That they weren’t my person. I find myself still hopeful, everyday. But as you said, in the current dating landscape of swipe and “the grass is always greener” syndrome, it can often feel defeating. I’ve recently said that even if I’m waiting until I’m 40 (which I don’t think will actually happen haha!), it’ll be worth it because I want to manifest the man I deserve. The one who will love my wild, who will be my more...who will meet me on the damn bridge. That’s ALWAYS worth waiting for. I’m so happy you found yours Xx, Hallie

By: Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde

Jordan @ The Balanced Blonde — Mon, 24 Sep 2018 20:00:55 +0000

In reply to Hallie O’Reilly. awww Hallie thank you so much I am so grateful for this comment. it is WORTH WAITING FOR !!! and I cannot wait for you to find your person!! <3